Clutterbuster

Clutterbuster

It’s that time of year again. As your yard is deciding whether or not to grow between sunny, warm days and the cold, snowy ones, you’re inside and getting itchy. Not the kind of itchy that comes with dry skin, but the kind of itchy that comes with cleaning… and being surrounded by too much stuff.

It’s time to bust that clutter.

I get it, we all get busy. Paper starts covering surfaces that it shouldn’t (read: kitchen table) and cups get left in the oddest of places (read: the bathroom cupboard). It’s time to take a few hours and go through those clothes. It’s time to refresh your world by deciding whether you really need three ladles, though you rarely have soups or sauces. It’s time to throw out expired medications and the thirty plastic cups you’ve collected throughout the year.

Here are links to help you cut the clutter:

50 Things to Throw Away – One Crazy House

How I Purged 91% of Our Stuff – Money Saving Mom

200+ Things to Throw Away Today – Embracing Homemaking

The Ridiculously Thorough Guide to Decluttering Your Home – Budget Dumpster

How to Get Motivated to Declutter – Living On A Dime

And remember: If you don’t love something, don’t keep it. If it doesn’t bring you absolute joy, toss it, donate it, sale it, or gift it to someone else.

Unfortunately, this doesn’t apply to your bills, vitamins, or vegetables.

Good luck!

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VA Training

VA Training

I’m super excited to share this with you!

After a while of stalking out Virtual Assisting and deciding if it’s what I wanted to do, I’ve finally decided on it.

And my decision is yes!

 

I wasn’t sure where to start with my business, so I looked at different training courses. Some of those courses are CRAZY EXPENSIVE.

Except for one: Gina Horkey’s 30 Days or Less to Virtual Assistant Success.

As of right now, there are three packages on her website. The first tier Starter Package is $39. The next tier, The Growth Package, is $69. The final tier, The Rockstar Package, is $129.

At the moment, she is trying to get version two of the course up.

 

The Starter Package includes: 30 self-paced email lessons, a built in follow-up to make sure you are on the right track, and the private facebook group.

The Growth  Package includes: Everything the Starter Package includes, enhanced training on Trello, Buffer, and the Google Tools Suite, and the video interview with Gina and her first VA client.

The Rockstar Package includes: Everything the Growth Package includes, an independent contractor agreement, “Hire Me” page video script and tutorial, and Beta Access to the exclusive VA matchmaking service.

 

I’m on lesson 5 so far and I love it. It covers what I needed to know and so much more!

I also started a Buffer account and a Trello Account. Trello is so much fun for anyone who loves to make lists. Buffer is great for scheduling your social media postings to be posted throughout the day.

 

I can’t wait to continue with the course! I’ll let you know how it goes.

Milk and Husbands

Milk and Husbands

I remember one time when I was about 16. We (my mum, brother, and I) were in the city. We had stayed with my grandparents the night before and got up to go to the local farmers market with them the next morning.

My grandma used to buy her milk at the farmer’s market, as that was where it was the least processed. I’ll never forget the conversation that I had.

The lady who sold the milk to us said something to my grandma about men needing to be constantly nagged or they wouldn’t do anything. That they had to be trained. My grandma agreed and went on her way. My mom was deciding whether or not to buy some milk too, so I stayed there with her.

“I don’t agree.” I told the lady.

“What?”

“Men don’t need to be constantly nagged. We don’t need to train them.”

“Oh, honey, you’re young. You’ll find out when you get married someday.”

“No, I won’t. Men don’t need to be nagged. How would you feel if your husband nagged you all the time?”

The lady turned to my mom. “You might want to tell her how wrong she is.”

“Except she isn’t.” My mom told the lady.

“She’ll grow up and see she is someday.” The lady replied.

 

We ended up agreeing to disagree and leaving. My mom didn’t buy any of the milk, but I think that was because the prices were too high, even for low pasteurized milk.

The worst part of this exchange was the woman’s grandson (who looked to be about 14) was sitting right there, listening to his grandma say all this. I felt so bad for him.

 

To this lady who told me all these things, I say this: I’ve been married for two years now. Yes, it has had its ups and downs. Even the best marriages do. But if I nagged my husband and “trained” him like you were talking about, I’d have an even worse time. I might even be divorced.

 

Ladies, your husband needs your honor and respect. Not your nagging and “training.” Don’t be like that woman. Don’t belittle him or treat him like a child. Don’t manipulate him. And don’t disrespect him. You’ll find less arguing and and overall happier life when you do.

To Everyone… From a Mom-To-Be

To Everyone… From a Mom-To-Be

You know what really, really makes me mad? It isn’t the fact that people at work don’t get me their work on time so I can do my job. It isn’t the fact that our world is falling apart, aided by progressive-minded individuals who believe we need to regulate morals and legalize immoral behavior. It isn’t the fact that these same individuals think Islam is the “religion of peace.” No, it’s the fact that we feel we need to shame mothers.

Mothers need a free choice when it comes to how they want to be treated when they receive prenatal care. They need free choice on how they want to birth, where they want to birth, what they want done during the labor and birth, and how they want to be informed and treated during labor.

So many people try to scare new mothers (and fathers!) into birthing or parenting how they want the parents to. They try to manipulate, shame, guilt, scare, and coax parents into doing it their way. It could be because they only see one way to do it that is the right way. It could be because they are scared. It could be because they have an agenda.

Let’s say you are opposed to vaccines, like me. I don’t care if anyone else gets them, that’s their own choice. For me, I don’t want a chemical cocktail that is responsible for autism and other disorders shoved into my baby’s body when he’s barely a few minutes (even to months or years) old. Plus, there is the rDNA factor, but I won’t get into that.

Let’s say someone who knows you do not get the flu shot tries to shame you for not getting it because, “You’re putting your child at risk!”

Whoa. No. Back up. For one, let’s start with the CDC not even being sure the flu shot works every year. Why get a chemical cocktail injected into your muscles because there is a 50% chance it might work? And why have the rDNA in your system from whatever strain of flu happens to be in the vaccine?

I wish more people who blindly get the vaccines were to do their research. I wish in the pamphlets for any of the shots, there would be a disclaimer for rDNA, what it is, and what it can do. I wish that vaccine manufacturers, Big Pharma, and the doctors that push the vaccines could be held liable for injuries resulting in any use of vaccines. But I can wish for all these things and more.

Back to the point of this rant. Women don’t need to be shamed because of how they parent.

Vaccinate? That’s great! Don’t choose to vaccinate for moral, health, etc. reasons? Fantastic! Had a voluntary c-section in the hospital? Good for you! Had a home birth with a doula and midwife present as well as your husband? Congratulations! Choose to put your kids in public school? Great choice! Home school your brood? Amazing!

The fact is that people become defensive when people attack them by telling them their way is wrong or even just disagreeing with the way they did it. Some may even say, “Your way was great for your family, but my family will be going a different route,” and that cues people to criticize and attack. Why not just stick by the old saying, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all?” Haven’t you seen Bambi enough times for that saying to be pounded in your head? If not, go watch it. Repeatedly. Even better, find the clip on youtube. Less time. And you can watch it repeatedly.

For the love of our sanity, people, let others parent the way they have researched and feel is best. And we will do the same for you. Don’t be a troll (in real life OR online). Find your tribe, the people who think the same way you do, and talk about it with them.

Rant over.

Gender Revealed!

Gender Revealed!

A few days ago I said I was expecting. Well the news is even bigger!

Not bigger like twins or triplets or anything like that, thank goodness. I think I should try to get used to one baby the first time around!

We learned I am about a week farther along than originally expected! Which means this baby will be coming along around March 1st. I hope it’s born on February 29th though… How cool would that be?

We also learned and saw the gender…

*Drumroll please*

IT’S A BOY!!!

boy

Homemaking: Why I Want It

Homemaking: Why I Want It

When I was 16, I decided I wanted to be a homemaker and be a stay-at-home mom. It just so happened that we (my brother, mother, and I) went to stay with my great grandparents. My brother told my great grandma he wanted to be a doctor and, as with everyone he told, she was so excited.

I went and cried alone in a bedroom. My mother came and found me and asked me what was wrong. I explained to her between sobs that no one ever gets that excited when I mention I wanted to be a stay-at-home-mom and wife. My mum told me that no matter how other people acted, she was proud of me and excited.

I’ve had people tell me how I need to go to college and get a job. I have a job and it pays pretty well. I don’t want to go to college because I don’t have anything I want to pursue in a degree level.

I’m not a full-time domestic engineer yet, but I still want to be. I want to homeschool my babies, to raise them and teach them right from wrong. I want to keep house and cook delicious meals from scratch. I want to tend a garden and, if I could, I would want to keep livestock. I want to be a helpmeet to my husband.

I’ve been attacked because of this. I’ve been told women need to be out working and leave their babies with daycare or schools.

 

I’ve been told to be superwoman.
To keep a full-time (or longer) job and bring home a paycheck that rivals (or exceeds!) my husbands.
To raise my children by seeing them only in the early mornings and evenings, sending them off to someone else that watches them grow up and teaches them how they want them to think.

To pick up fast food to feed the family every night.
To do the cleaning, the dishes, the laundry on weekends and be continually stressed about them.

To do what is on my agenda and to meet my goals, then maybe give some to my husband.

To fight against men, tell them they are dumb for being how they are, and de-masculanize them.

 

And I can say that I don’t want to.

I don’t want to be superwoman.

I don’t want to be gone all day, working for someone else who I’m disposable to.

I don’t want to send my babies off when I can teach them, when God calls me to raise them in the paths they should go.

I don’t want to spend an exuberant amount of money on fast food, I want to cook from scratch, bake bread, kombucha, and kefir, to feed my family healthy foods.

I don’t want to have my weekends filled with cleaning. I want to have a bright clean house to relax in and for my husband to come home to each night.

I don’t want to give my leftovers to my husband after focusing on myself. I want him to know I’m his helpmeet, ready to be his partner in anything life throws at us.

And I don’t want to fight against men. I want to empower men.

A real man doesn’t attack women. A real man is a gentleman, not a rapist, an abuser, or someone who sees women as a doormat. I want to empower my husband, my sons, my father and father-in-law, my nephews, my uncles, my cousins, my brother and brother’s-in-law, and any other men to treat women with respect and dignity, as they are the gentler sex, even if many of them have been lied to. I want to empower them to stand up and be men, to be “strong and courageous” (Joshua 1:9) and to take responsibility for the well-being of their families. I want to charge them with being to their wives “as Jesus was to the church” (Ephesians 5:25-33). I want them to realize that they are the heads of their families and that they are the ones who are called to lead.

 

I want to teach women to be kind and loving to their men. My sisters in Jesus, my sister’s-in-law, my mother and mother’s-in-law, my nieces, my aunts, my cousins, my daughters, and any other women I meet everyday. I want to teach them to be the “crown of their husbands” (Proverbs 12:4a)  instead of the “rot in his bones” (Proverbs 12:4b). I want to teach them to be a Proverbs 31 woman. I want to teach them to be a Titus 2 woman. I want them to know what real submission is and how they are praising God when they “submit to their husbands as to God” (Ephesians 5:22-24; 33).

I want to fight against feminazism.

And I want to live righteously as I can, to bring glory to God.